M. Scott Peck once wrote, “The only real security in life lies in relishing life’s insecurity.” These words, drawn from his seminal book The Road Less Travelled, hold a profound truth that we often resist: everything we are today is a result of change. Change—that constant, inevitable force—shapes us, even when we fight it.

Change is unavoidable. Yet, how we adapt to it—our attitude, mindset, and discipline—determines the trajectory of our lives. Often, change is not what we want or expect. It pulls us out of our comfort zones, thrusting us into unfamiliar terrain. It challenges us, fragments us and forces us to confront fears we’d rather avoid. But here’s the paradox: while change can feel destabilising, resisting it creates a false sense of control. The truth is, events rarely fall within our control. The only thing we can control is how we respond.

Many of us cling to the illusion of stability, fearing change because it disrupts the familiar. But this resistance comes at a cost. By avoiding change, we deny ourselves the opportunity to grow. Growth often requires us to embrace discomfort and uncertainty—to step into the unknown and trust that, even in insecurity, we will find security within ourselves.

Fear is natural, but courage isn’t the absence of fear. Courage is acting despite it, moving forward even when the path is uncertain. Embracing change requires this kind of courage: the willingness to let go of control, step into the unknown and confront whatever comes our way.

Life is a tapestry of growth and decay. To elect life and growth is to accept change—and with it, the inevitability of pain. This pain, however, is not without reward. To grow in any dimension of life means to experience both joy and hardship. A full life will always include struggle because growth stretches us, sometimes to our limits. The alternative? To stay stagnant, to live only half a life, or not to live at all.

I often think of this idea of ‘frequencies’—our personal comfort zones. Each of us operates within our own bandwidth, where we feel safe. For some, this frequency is expansive and daring. For others, it’s narrow and predictable. Neither is right or wrong, but growth occurs when we stretch beyond our current frequency. Those who are willing to agitate, to push the boundaries of their comfort zones, are the ones who invite real, transformative change.

Change is where growth lives. It’s where life happens.

As Peck notes, life’s essence is a “panoply of growth and decay.” As something new grows, something else fades. To live fully is to accept this duality. When we resist change, we’re denying life itself. To embrace life’s insecurity is to understand that in growth, there is loss—but also infinite possibility. To truly live, we must step into the flux, accepting that security is found not in avoiding change but in thriving within it.

Change is the only constant in life. Fighting it doesn’t stop it. Avoiding it doesn’t prevent it. Instead, we must embrace it—actively, courageously and with intention. The choice is ours: stay within the confines of our frequency, or break free and grow. It won’t always be easy, but it will always be worth it.

So, what will you choose? Will you cling to the illusion of control, or will you step into the unknown and relish the insecurity that life inevitably brings? Remember, everything you are today is a result of change. Everything you will be tomorrow depends on how you embrace it today.